Working Through Emotional Knots (a powerful process)
Dear human,
Have you noticed how very easy it is for life to pass us by? To feel you've woken up suddenly, a decade older. To wonder where the time has gone and why you haven't been more intentional, present, and connected along the journey.
Slowing down
Dropping in fully
Taking our metaphorical masks off
Convening with our soul in a true and beautiful way
...these are often afterthoughts, and often after exhaustion or some form of tragedy has penetrated our tiny bubble. But when those things become a regular part of our life, even if just 2x's a month...wowowowow, does life get rich!
This is why I created RITUAL: the membership.
I wanted to create a container that was not only accessible (we meet virtually just 2x's a month), but also deep in intention, presence, and connection. I wanted a space where you could say, "Ok, higher Self. Yes, I can gift this to myself. I can devote 2x's a month to join in community, be held, and really, truly...do the work. No more excuses."
To give you an idea of the incredible processes we go through in RITUAL, I wanted to share a recent process we did. (P.S. after doing the process below and sharing (hearts blown open), we then did a somatic breathwork healing experience...it was powerful, to say the least).
A RITUAL member, Jennifer, graciously said I could share her self-reflection writing process we went through in RITUAL last week.
The theme was Restoring Balance in Our Relationships (with a focus on the relationship with our Self).
The process I took them through comes from an acquaintance of mine, Amber Rae (the author I mentioned above). Each member had 15-minutes to have a written conversation with an emotion. I gave them questions to ask the emotion, though they could go 'off script' if they wanted. The main thing was to get clarity on why this emotion was showing up, rather than simply naming it bad, ignoring it, suppressing it, or dwelling in it. The deeper message was that these emotions are here, like sacred bells, to wake us up, letting us know that something in our life needs our attention. WOW was this powerful and those who chose to share, thank-you!
Here's Jennifer's conversation. She was working with anxiety:
Hey anxious, it’s me Jen. You are safe and welcome here. What do you want me to know?
(Anxious) I want you to know that this is not good for your nervous system, your heart, or your relationships. You are hurting yourself getting lost in me.
(Me) Mmmm…yes, I know, it is such an automatic place for me to go, though. The world is a hard and confusing place for me, and all I want is joy, love, and experience. The world and people confuse me and when I feel like this, I feel anxious. What do you need from me?
(Anxious) I need you to dedicate yourself to meditation, exercise, and a practice that you can do when you're feeling overwhelmed. 15 minutes of deep breathing. Crying. A long walk…..whatever it takes to feel grounded.
(Me) yes…I can do that. What do you need to feel safe?
(Anxious) I need safe relationships and practices that are grounding and also creative. Art is the key outlet and grounding element.
(Me) How can we work together?
(Anxious) I am here as a reminder of your deep soul and that yes, life is often confusing, painful and unpredictable. Have acceptance for this and also do the work to bring peace where you can to your nervous system.
(Me) What next step can we take together?
(Anxious) Each day dedicate a small amount of time to something that actively puts your nervous system to rest.
(Me) Thank you…..yes, I can commit to this. Thank you.
Such beautiful insight and deep release from the burden of feeling like anxiousness/anxiety is 'wrong.' No loves, it's a messenger.
If this practice resonates with you, I promise you'll find RITUAL to be deeply supportive and life-enhancing. As one member shared with me, RITUAL is like yoga, therapy, and a spoken word/poetry slam all in one.
“You and what you bring to this world have been like a savior of sorts for me. Every piece of what I crave, literally like a hungry soul searching for nourishment, is found with you and how you lead us into high through mind, body, spirit, movement, and connection. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your gift online.” - MEGAN
To Bringing Our Full Selves, to the World…Together,
PS. I'd love to know what you discovered from reading this article...share below.